If you’ve been living under a rock this past week, or happen to only read reputable news websites, unlike myself, you might have missed the headlines:
‘Couple Caught In Office Sex Romp’
I ignored the first article that popped up on my news feed. I again ignored it the second day when it was still top ‘news’ and continued to ignore a little more.
Three days in, and I finally took the bait, clicking a headline that read something like: ‘
‘Uh Oh! He’s Married with Kids; She’s Engaged!’
It was ridiculous piece, full of (among other things) feigned sympathy for the betrayed wife and children and the jilted fiancé.
The article included tweets and comments from people who were using their written voice to tear apart two people they’d never actually met, but already placed upon them the judgement they saw fit.
I didn’t watch any provided footage from aforementioned romp, not just because I though it unnecessary, or immoral, but because it had not been made public to me, nor anyone else, by those being filmed!
Yes, you could argue that this couple chose to engage in risky behaviour in a public place, so they ran the risk of exposure, but the truth is, they didn’t know they were being filmed, and we have no right to have viewing access to it.
Our society can’t seem to get enough of this virtual voyeurism.
I have a confession…
I’m not perfect.
There are multiple times a day that my thoughts are ugly, horrible things, things, that sometimes evolve their way into actions.
Ugly, horrible actions.
Actions that hurt others.
Actions that hurt me.
Actions with difficult consequences.
If I had a hidden camera trained on my brain, picking up every mental indiscretion I made, I’d be mortified!
Thankfully, I don’t. I have the luxury of my thoughts remaining private-
apart from the crazy malfunction that compels me to blog them!
I’m not just talking about sexual thoughts, my brain can conjure up some pretty horrible thoughts and opinions about others.
Renewal of the mind is a daily process!
But you know what? I don’t think I’m alone.
I don’t think I’m the only one with occasional messed-up fantasies, and destructive thought patterns that if released into any type of public domain, would give a scandal-lovin’ people a whole lot to whisper about.
I’m not condoning infidelity, and I’m not asking you to either.
I’m not saying that what this couple did is okay.
What I am asking, is if you’ve read the article, if you’ve formed an opinion on these people, would you now take just a moment to truly assess how you might feel if your untamed thoughts, ANY untamed thoughts, had became actions, and if those actions had been made so very public.
As someone who follows the teachings of Jesus, I’m no longer bound by the chaffing bonds of law, but instead the freedom of grace.
Freedom, however, comes at a price. It requires a standard and in this case, it was Jesus Himself who set it with these words:
“But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Matthew 5:28 NKJV)
Just a look. An intentional look, completely devoid of action already equates adultery.
If I were one of the individuals involved in this scandal, I would already feel great shame. I would already feel an unbearable burden due to the pain I had brought upon those I love.
I would probably feel as though I was drowning in the consequences of my own poor choices. I can’t imagine the pressure and humiliation of having to deal with all this under the eye of a people driven by a consumer mentality, all watching me in my darkest most shameful hour.
Heck, I’d feel ashamed if people knew what I was thinking half the time I leave my house!
So I guess what I’m asking us, myself, to consider is, the whole principle of ‘Do Unto Others As You Would Have Them Do Unto You’, only I’m asking that we apply this even to our thinking.
Do, even with your thoughts, unto others as you would have them do unto you.
I believe it carries more power than we can yet see.
We all seem so obsessed with actions, and yes, actions speak louder than words, but every action begins with a thought…